The Dummy Dilemma
For many parents, the dummy (or pacifier as it’s otherwise known) has been a lifesaver during the early months and years of their child’s life. It soothes crying, helps babies fall asleep, and can offer comfort during stressful or unfamiliar situations. But as your child grows, you might find yourself wondering when — and how — to say goodbye to the dummy for good.
Let’s explore the pros and cons of dummy use, when it might be time to stop, and gentle strategies to help your child give it up.
Why Children Use Dummies
Dummies satisfy a baby’s natural sucking reflex. This action can be incredibly calming and is often used by babies to self-soothe. Many parents rely on dummies to help settle their child during naps or bedtime or during moments of upset.
In the early months, this can be completely fine — even helpful. But prolonged dummy use beyond toddlerhood may start to present challenges.
When Is It Time to Let Go of the Dummy?
Most experts recommend starting to phase out dummy use between 6 months and 2 years. Here’s why:
Speech and language development: Prolonged dummy use can interfere with a child’s ability to practice sounds, words, and normal speech patterns.
Dental issues: Long-term use may affect the alignment of a child’s teeth and jaw, especially beyond age 2 or 3.
Emotional independence: As children grow, they benefit from learning new ways to comfort themselves without relying on a dummy.
How to Wean Off the Dummy: Tried-and-True Tips
Every child is different, so there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Here are several strategies that can help you move away from dummy use — gently and effectively.
1. Start Gradually
Begin by limiting dummy use to certain times, such as just at bedtime or nap time. Once your child adjusts, you can work on phasing it out completely.
2. Offer Alternatives
Help your child find other ways to self-soothe — like cuddling a favourite toy or using a comfort blanket.
3. Use Positive Reinforcement
Celebrate dummy-free moments. A sticker chart, small rewards, or verbal praise can go a long way in encouraging your child.
4. Tell a Story or Make It Special
Some families create a “dummy fairy” tradition, where children leave their dummies under the pillow in exchange for a small gift. Others donate them to “new babies” in need (symbolically, of course).
5. Go Cold Turkey (If It Works for Your Child)
Some parents find success with going cold turkey — simply taking away the dummy and offering extra comfort in the days that follow. This can be effective with children who are ready or less dependent on it.
Expect Some Resistance — And Be Patient
Letting go of the dummy is a big change for some children. There may be tears or disrupted sleep at first, but with patience, reassurance, and consistency, most children adjust within a few days to a few weeks.
Final Thoughts
There’s no shame in using a dummy — and there’s no perfect time to stop. The key is to pay attention to your child’s needs, offer plenty of emotional support, and take small, confident steps toward life without it.
With a little patience and encouragement, your child will learn that they’re perfectly capable of feeling safe, calm, and comforted — all on their own.
